tammy are you currently pleased now? Yes i’ve tried speak to him , absolutely cant reach him. At me or laughs at me, is absolutely never moved by me if I cry he is either angry. I’ve wondered if he could be a bit psychotic. Are a sweetheart that is total. Do I adore him? Yes yet not to your detriment of my psychological wellness. We believe we now have a rather relationship that is bad.
These episodes happen about when an and last a week month.
I will be delighted when I am now, its difficult as being a mum that is single i dont regret my decision. The thing that is only can recommend is you should do what exactly is perfect for your self along with your young ones. if you are unhappy, your kids wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have a suitable household (as him being together) but i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life unhappy in me and. besides i was raised without having a dad, and I also think we ended up fine. and its own perhaps perhaps maybe not although he doesnt exactly much of an effort in my opinion like he cant see dd.
i dont really know very well what else to recommend regularhiding.
or theres counselling, but i do not understand if it will be of every assistance
regularhiding, i truly feel at you when you are crying (my ex did this to me a lot) for you and know what it’s like to have your partner laugh.
May I simply state that I think these nasty streaks may get to become more and more regular and it’s also bad for you yourself to feel you need to walk on eggshells (or even the kiddies while they will sense a stress floating around).
You can find 2 items that you might do. First, the next time he threatens to keep, phone their bluff and make sure he understands „there is the door“. The reason why we state this can be he understands which you think you cannot live without him in which he is playing with this (sorry however the expression „power journey“ pops into the mind). Or perhaps you could take to asking him why he seems the requirement to be nasty for you, but we have the experience this will either get laughed at or end it all on you with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming.
Then please know that yes you can cope alone and that he is revelling in the fact that he can treat you how he likes because you would never leave him if you do feel that the only reason you are with him is that you feel you couldn’t cope alone. I understand this from very first hand connection with my ex. He additionally thought i possibly couldn’t cope without him around (therefore did we for some time) but he got a surprise whenever his energy trips backfired on him and I also took my DS1 and relocated 500 kilometers getting far from him.
I am sorry if i have overstepped the mark or which you feel i’m being too harsh on your own spouse but exactly what he could be doing to you noises as being similar to just what my ex ended up being doing if you ask me perhaps not a long time before he began hitting me
sorry to know this, regularhiding. I believe hiddenspirit’s post makes a lot of feeling, unfortunately.
This noises, at the minimum, like psychological punishment in my opinion. You noticed any other pattern emerging when you say these episodes occur once a month and last for a week, have? Can there be any such thing which appears to trigger them?
The worrying thing is that there *is* violence, simply not fond of you – yet. Maybe you have to look for specialized help. If he will not get, you could test conversing with your gp first of all.
Absolutely think you’ve got a nagging issue here. Concur that if it keeps on like this he might well get violent in your direction or perhaps the children too. Indicate a diary is kept by you of incidents and just what occurs within the run as much as them. Take to composing it from their perspective and from yours. Should assist you to workout exactly exactly what their reasoning is and whether you’re ready to live along with it all or otherwise not. If he will not talk to you possibly he will at the least read everything you’ve written and come to realise which he requires assistance. For the time being I would personally form bullying into google and find out you skill to avoid your self being bullied. Additionally look up domestic abuse. Allow it keep on and you will lose the kids‘ respect along with your very own self self- self- self- confidence. Wonder if it is a response to your AF or something like that regular at your workplace? Whatever, he can not act this way. You CAN manage without him!